AITA for telling my husband his "fragile masculinity" is costing us money? Back in late 2021, my husband Craig (M46) and I (F44) welcomed our fourth child into the world. As a result, we needed to upgrade one of our cars to something larger. We decided to trade in my super reliable Toyota RAV4 for something bigger since I was the one who ...Update: Wow, I was not expecting this to blow up, or for so many people to have such strong feelings about bread. Thank you for all of your input, especially my sister who unexpectedly chimed in. This may be the most validating experience of 7 years of living together. I shared this with my husband, and he accepts his AH status and apologized.NTA. I am mad for you. What a shitty bunch of in-laws, and I include your husband in that. Your kid, HIS kid, THEIR grandkid depends on you for food, so besides being a major fuckwattle to you, they're hurting their own blood as well, for apparently no reason whatsoever. It's time for your husband to stand up for you.He ain't normal. .. NTA. You're not divorcing him because he wants a son, you're divorcing him because he has said some truly unforgivable things. I'm so sorry about your son - please know it wasn't your fault. Your husband it's truly vile to say what he did and that alone is grounds to end your marriage.Throwaway account. So me (26f) and my husband (28m), who I'll call "Jake" for this story, have been together for 5 years and married for 3. We have recently started trying for a baby as we both felt like that was the next step in our life together, and 3 weeks ago I got a positive test back.I told my husband to stop spending so much money on his dead girlfriend’s younger sister after he said he would pay for her wedding and buy her a house, since we are currently …Yup as a married woman myself you “leave and cleave” meaning you leave your family of origins and cleave to the family you create with your spouse. And as a married man you do the same. Actually. the Bible says that that’s what the man is supposed to do, so he’s even more responsible for it.Personally, my husband has always been extra protective so I think he's just being extra. I also don't understand why my kid spoke to him instead of straight to me. I don't think I am in the wrong here, just that my daughter has got the wrong idea and my husband is overreacting. AITA for telling my daughter how much things cost for her?Personally, my husband has always been extra protective so I think he's just being extra. I also don't understand why my kid spoke to him instead of straight to me. I don't think I am in the wrong here, just that my daughter has got the wrong idea and my husband is overreacting. AITA for telling my daughter how much things cost for her?I think it was endearing at first but now it's too much. We can't afford all this fancy food. I'm making $100k a year but he's a substitute teacher and making very little so all his money is going to groceries. So he has no money to help me out with other bills and expenses. We can't go on vacation this year because of it as well.I love my husband, I do but that's one thing I can't do. Ride or die, I get defending him in different situations but serious ones aren't my friends. His behavior is odd these days, we have two kids we do everything for and my husband thinks he is one of the kids. My husband expects me to do so much for him, I told him he doesn't come first so ...So I (28M) have been married to my wife for 4 years and we have a 2 year old son together. My older sister Ariel has 2 kids with her husband. She is my only sibling but we do not speak and haven't since my wedding 4 years ago. My wife knew I had no relationship with my sister or mother whenever we got together but now it's causing an argument.It sounds like the man you love is also feeling pain… he is no longer able to leave the legacy he wanted to leave for his children and he has lashed out at you as a result. I know you’re not a fan of ultimatums, but maybe it’s time to give him one in hopes he realizes what he is saying. Option 1) leave your will as is.My ex just nodded to what I was saying, and asked if he could see our daughter. I was a bit hesitant, but said yes, and called my sister to have her bring our daughter down to the living room. My ex held our daughter, and talked to the baby for a bit before leaving. My sister asked me if I was alright after he was gone, and I told her I was okay.NTA. I am mad for you. What a shitty bunch of in-laws, and I include your husband in that. Your kid, HIS kid, THEIR grandkid depends on you for food, so besides being a major fuckwattle to you, they're hurting their own blood as well, for apparently no reason whatsoever. It's time for your husband to stand up for you.Paying off debt, increasing savings, reducing taxes, investing for the future—with so many different money management goals to work on, it can be hard knowing where to focus your e...I’d be a little salty if my husband voluntarily took on a second job, likely dropping some responsibility on me while he was at it, and spent his time elsewhere not because we needed the money to survive but because he liked fancy things. At that point I’d feel like I was just there to pay my half of the bills so he could divert more money to his amazon …My oldest dad's family tried this bs. Im Puerto Rican and he is black. When my son was younger he went to visit his grandfathers family from his dad side and they were telling my sons dad ooh I dont think he is yours he looks Spanish. His sister the only one I get along with told them obviously he looks Spanish his mother is Puerto Rican. She ...Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole.Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment.. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my husband's family to mind their own effing business when they interfered in a disagreement my husband and I were having about our unborn son's name.Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: Telling my husband that the only reason why I married him is that I needed a visa. 2) Because it's awful to use somebody I guess.My husband said that was fine however, my son decided not to go last minute because he wanted to just spend time with my husband. (My husband didn't know that but I did) My husband spent the day with Jane and her son even after me telling him that I wasn't happy about him going and that he should cancel - but he said he already told her he ...r/AmItheAsshole. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in an argument that's been bothering you. Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; give us both sides of the story, and find out if you're right, or you're the asshole.I was in bed for four days with a fever ranging from 103-106 (Fahrenheit), plus chills, body aches and vomiting. It was awful. My husband, to his credit, did take care of me. He took a day off of work when he needed to, took care of the kids (14, 6, 4 and 1) solo and made sure I was staying hydrated, asked if I needed anything, etc….I told them their money problems are not my issue, and if Sadie's items get stolen again or they try to pull her out of school, I'll be taking this to court. They've been blowing up my phone ever since, calling me a selfish AH, and after telling the story to a friend, he told me I was rubbing my success in their face, but I still don't feel ...When my husband and I got married we thought it was only fair to share the college fund even though my ex husbands mother was the one who created it. Kinda like here we consider you family type of thing. My daughter was more furious with me that I was already talking about this while my mother is still alive.AITA for telling my husband my ex and I traveled to 56 countries together? I (44F) am turning 45 August 3rd. Two months ago my husband of 5 years (45M) surprised me and said he booked us a 10 day vacation to Italy. We leave July 28th. My husband is a special ed middle school teacher so school is out until September.My answer: NTA. ""My brother wants to cut me out of his life, his wife wants a divorce, and my husband is miserable, all because of something I said."". No, its because your brother is an asshole LIAR. He lied for her so she married him under false pretense and he lied about where he were.Skm8315. ADMIN MOD. AITA for telling my husband that my inheritance is mine to do what I want with it. Asshole. My parents are up in age, my mother is dying and my dad is ok but doesn't have too many years left. My parents have money and my siblings and I will get a healthy inheritance. My husband comes from a family that will leave this ...Mark explained that he doesn’t have that kind of money. So I said she can’t come back until my daughters stuff is repaired with a sincere apology. Koi agreed and mark was upset saying he couldn’t do that to his daughter. I told him to leave if that’s the case. Mark left for a few hours and handed my daughter a check for 1000 dollars. I ...I wanted her to agree to ground our daughter from social media and make her get a job to pay for the damage. We argued for hours until she said I don't get a say in any punishment because I'm not her father. That ended the argument and I walked off. Since then I've checked out of any parental duties.We don't have a prenup, so this means that my wife has a right to at least 25% of my separate property if I die even if I were to disinherit her in my will. I've decided to will her 30% of my separate property (was previously 100%) and 100% of our communal property if I die. The rest of my separate property, including income-producing assets ...PJ-TJ. •. OP, make sure you 1) hire lawyer who works in trusts and estates, and 2) make sure executor and trustee ppwk is filed ASAP. It sounds like the father would not be above interceding and filing incorrect ppwk with a court, seeking to name himself executor and trustee so he can take the steps he outlined.Not only did Ella help break up her family, she and the ex literally revealed they were planning on going full on parental alienation on her. Ella told OP her plans to become the main mom in the kids’ eyes. So not only did they have an affair, but they wanted to ruin the relationship OP has with her kids.My mother-in-law wants to be in the room when I give birth. She is an unpleasant and pushy woman and none of her own daughters have allowed her near them when they gave birth. My sisters-in-law are all at least twelve years older than my husband and are all done having kids. I am the last chance for my mother-in-law to see the birth of a ...FantasticAd4294. ADMIN MOD. AITA for telling my husband to stay out of my relationship with my daughter? Okay, so I (33F) had my daughter Lourdes "Luli" (16F) when I was seventeen with my then boyfriend Kevin (18M at the time), and even though the relationship didn't last, we both worked hard to give Luli the best life we could, and we're good ...Frankly, their reaction about who they would "allow" in their family now and forever absolves you of any guilt about not telling them. You don't need to apologize to them. They need to apologize to you and your husband. As for refunding them, they bought it, unasked, based purely on assumptions they made.Just 6 months ago, the daughter asked for money for dental implants. I happily told my husband to be as generous as he can be since it's not always the case and she rarely ask for money. After that first time, she kept asking for more. One time it was grocery, next its day care bills, then phone bills.Based on your other comments: Your ex gives Emily $25 a week for lunch. You say school lunches are $5. By my math $5 x 5 days of school per week = $25. So your ex is paying only enough for her school lunches. Emily works part-time. She uses her own money to add to this to get lunches from restaurants.A little back story. My wife and I met at 21. We've been very happy together every since. We got married at 28 when she was pregnant with our daughter. I work full time in a very high stress but lucrative field. My wife stays home to take care of our little girl and the household. We are both 33.There was a teen in my old neighborhood who I used to pay $20 to mow my fron lawn - it was a pretty small lawn, too. I'd sometimes pay him a little extra to do stuff like mulch my trees. Sometimes I'd find something for him to do because he'd text me saying he was in need of money so are there any odd jobs he can do.So, Anyways! My husband and I took 2 weeks off work to go visit some places out of the country - tourism in other words. Thing is I was the one who saved up for and arranged for the trip (my husband was responsible for booking the tickets). My husband's mom wanted to come along and threw temper tantrums when I said no.It sounds like you are forced to ask your family for money because your husband keeps such a tight rein on the money. This is a very outdated and inappropriate way to be handling household finances. Although you do not directly earn income, you are contributing to the household in non-financial ways and your husband's money IS your money.My husband and I do Easter baskets for one another, and this year he gave me mine early since I’ll be gone. In the basket was the usual, dark choco bunny, Starburst jelly beans, and then some Swiftie stuff from Etsy, a fidget toy, and really surprisingly he got me three full bottles of perfumes that were on my wish list.By the end of the night, he owed my brother-in-law around £5,000 which isn’t the type of money my brother can just easily hand over. When I saw my brother he looked like he was on the verge of a panic attack. After I forced him to tell me what happened I confronted my brother-in-law who thought the entire thing was just some harmless fun.Listen, your husband sounds a lot like mine with his family until I put my foot down. Absolutely no back one. This sh1t should have stopped a long time ago. At this point, your husband is just as much to blame for tolerating being treated like sh1t for so long. You need to accept, as did I, that he will get nowhere in life being a doormat ...He requested our finances to be split. Fine by me, because seeing how he blows through his money is so frusrtating. He says he has kids, commitments and has to provide but I don't think that kids would need that much money to live like the other kids. his bank account is always almost empty, Whileas mine has over 20k.Throwaway because my main is obviously me. So my husband (40)m and I (25)f share a bank account. There are three kids in the house including my newborn (I didn't take any maternity just kept working, I am also the baby's exclusive caregiver, he does stuff for older kids) A few pieces of information, I started a business about 5 years ago that ended up working out really well (don't worry ...AITA? To clarify my husband and I both have our own salaries, we contribute equally towards expenses. It's his idea since he had a divorce before. He still has things that he owns alone which isn't bad since money has never been an issue. It's not like he needs money for an emergency or something he just wants 50% of profit going forward.OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: got mad at my husband for using my money that I'd given him to hold onto, not to keep and use 2) we're married and we should be a team, which can mean supporting each other financially at times. Help keep the sub engaging!AITA for telling my husband that my inheritance is mine to do what I want with it. My parents are up in age, my mother is dying and my dad is ok but doesn’t have too many years left. My parents have money and my siblings and I will get a healthy inheritance.r/AmItheAsshole. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in an argument that's been bothering you. Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; give us both sides of the story, and find out if you're right, or you're the asshole.Turns out my wife must've told her about her decision and she decided to follow her lead. My brother is pissed saying my wife is encouraging his wife to do this. I see that the problem has just gotten bigger now. Who knows, my younger sister might join in and decide not to go as well. I don't know how this got out of control so quickly.Well they seem to be extra this year so my husband told a guy to handle it without me knowing. Well today it's Memorial Day weekend and I went down to the dock and it smelled horribly of mothballs! The guy used a snake repellent that's the same active ingredient as mothballs and I'm livid that my property is polluted with something so ...My husband and I exchanged the earrings for the matching necklace during the weekend. Our girl loved it. We filmed her wearing it and thanking my father and his wife, and sent them the video. My father sent us an audio ("you're welcome, honey", "I love you", etc.) in response. My stepmother didn't reply, nor do I expect her to.This is the way - my parents did the same thing. I stayed in school and ended up breaking up with my ex-fiancée my senior year of college after almost 3 years of dating. Looking back, it was an excellent call by my parents - he was way too much of a Mama’s Boy, and I did end up finishing my degree. Bulletin dodged.I think it was endearing at first but now it's too much. We can't afford all this fancy food. I'm making $100k a year but he's a substitute teacher and making very little so all his money is going to groceries. So he has no money to help me out with other bills and expenses. We can't go on vacation this year because of it as well.My husband and I do Easter baskets for one another, and this year he gave me mine early since I’ll be gone. In the basket was the usual, dark choco bunny, Starburst jelly beans, and then some Swiftie stuff from Etsy, a fidget toy, and really surprisingly he got me three full bottles of perfumes that were on my wish list.emptycoconuts. ADMIN MOD. AITA for telling my husband where he is and isn't allowed to poo. Not the A-hole. Ideally this will be short and sweet. My husband, (33M) who will be referred to as Tyler, and I (27F) have been together nearly 8 years. We share a sizable home that has 5 bathrooms, each equipped with a functional toilet.AITA for telling my husband that my inheritance is mine to do what I want with it. My parents are up in age, my mother is dying and my dad is ok but doesn’t have too many years left. My parents have money and my siblings and I will get a healthy inheritance.AITA for telling my husband. My money is mine? (r/AmITheAsshole)Source: Zealousideal_Fly4786 on Reddit (link removed because YouTube keeps dinging me for lin...To settle the divorce, my ex mailed me a check for $900, assumed our credit card debts and that was that. He has never contacted me again, so I assumed he was not hurt. I eventually became a hospital receptionist and met my now fiance, who is a radiologist. I told him about being divorced once but said that we grew apart, and then sat down and ...Mark doesn't want my mom to work but he also doesn't give her money for us because thats our dads job so I was kinda on my own to get anything I needed. A guy at my school noticed I don't have a lunch most of the time so he started bringing extra food for me then I started going to his house after school. They've been really nice to me.My husband who is never really home anyways (he is a trucker) wants to start picking up extra loads and making more money so that we can basically help his mom financially. I told my husband that I think that she should suck it up. She is in her mid 40's, has a decent paying job, all of her kids are grown, and she can work a 2nd job (if necessary).My husband (31m) has always been super fond of nicknames and has given me plenty of them. They constantly change and I have never minded any of the ones he's given me before. They're all quite harmless, usually food or animal related. But they tend to stick for a while. His family also uses nicknames.My ex-husband and I divorced when my son was ten. My ex had found someone new. We went for 50/50 custody but he still had to pay some child support. I went back to school at that time. On the weeks his dad had him I buckled down and did nothing but schoolwork. When he was with me I made sure I had time for him before and after school.r/AmItheAsshole. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in an argument that's been bothering you. Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; give us both sides of the story, and find out if you're right, or you're the asshole.I calmly told him to pack him and his kids stuff and get out of my house and that they needed to stay gone for awhile. I told him I needed space, without harassment and said that I am reconsidering staying in this marriage. He says that breaking vows over kids being excited about a baby "shows my true colors".So me and my husband already knew we'd be exchanging the earrings. Usually, we don't tell people we're exchanging a gift they bought for us. This time is different. My stepmother has been pestering me about piercing my daughter's ears since she was born. There's always a different reason why.West Kirkland Mining News: This is the News-site for the company West Kirkland Mining on Markets Insider Indices Commodities Currencies StocksThere's a reason pregnancy is a life threatening condition. You need birth control your husband can't tamper with. I have 6 kids, all conceived on birth control. In my case, it's a medical condition. Basically, I am hyperfertile and my body breaks down birth control faster than most women.I lost it again. Yelling, I looked at my sister-in-law telling her; How dare she use my nursery, for my baby, how dare she think she has the right. What she told me, made me fall to my knees sobbing. "It's not my fault you couldn't produce a child, why let this go to waste, you're so selfish."Now one of my stepsisters is a solicitor and we were hoping that her first reaction would be to ensure her mother got at least 50% not 30.5 and we were correct a week after our solicitor sent the letter we recieved a notice of severence from my step sister informing my father that on the grounds him and my SM had split they are both entitled to ...By the end of the night, he owed my brother-in-law around £5,000 which isn’t the type of money my brother can just easily hand over. When I saw my brother he looked like he was on the verge of a panic attack. After I forced him to tell me what happened I confronted my brother-in-law who thought the entire thing was just some harmless fun.Last week was my stepdaughter's (SD) 14th birthday. She was in the hospital days prior for a medical issue and now she's better. My husband threw her a small birthday party. Unbeknowest to me, my boys (16) & (12) decided to pull a funny prank and mess with the birthday cake that they made for her.Well, you're being sensitive. Learn to take a joke hun.". In all reality, they should get couple therapy so husband can stfu and learn that he's being condescending and disrespectful and to also learn that there's no such thing as someone else emasculating him. He does that himself by being a prick. 3.7K.UPDATE. UPDATE: AITA for "hiding" my saving from my fiancé. My fiancé and I have spent the last week talking a lot about this. We started talking about it the day after my post. There was actually a lot to talk about, because she had a lot of thoughts and feelings. When we started talking I told her about the post very quickly.We've been married for a year, after being together since we were 19. We grew up in the same city, our families sort of know each other, and we went to high school together. After finding out I was pregnant, my husband told my his mother had been waiting for a niece/nephew for a long time, and she couldn't wait to spend time with them.My suggestions here is to do 2 things: Tell his parents that you guys don't really have the money and that your husband is giving all your extra money to them due to some sort of insecurity. Tell your husband you will be telling his parents this, also. Set up a house hold budget that includes 3 bank accounts.My husband and I do Easter baskets for one another, and this year he gave me mine early since I’ll be gone. In the basket was the usual, dark choco bunny, Starburst jelly beans, and then some Swiftie stuff from Etsy, a fidget toy, and really surprisingly he got me three full bottles of perfumes that were on my wish list.My husband has always talked about having kids. We decided we were ready last year. After months of stress and no results, we went to a doctor and found out my husband is infertile. He's always deeply wanted to be a dad so this was a big deal to him. We took a few months to process - and he grieved the loss, understandably so. To my surprise .... When my husband and I got married we thought itAITA for telling my husband his "fragile masculinit Right so onto the current issue. BM has for as long as I know my hubby been a bit fo a problem and I'll give you a lot of time examples. Lied about the kiddo being deathly ill and on life support. Provided a fake hospital bill in regard to the above. Lied to my FIL about hubby paying child support so she was receiving money from both my hubby ...So I finally straight up told her she will never have as happy a marriage with him as I have with my love. Specifically because she married someone who doesnt even like her, much less love her. I told her she can't change trash into gold by force & to have a marriage like mine she needs a husband like mine. My husband and I, both mid 40’s have been together for So I knew it was true. After I finished laughing I said to my dear husband that the divorce papers will be delivered to you by tonight. And you aren’t getting shit from me because that prenup that you signed 5 years ago…”yeah you are fucked”. Meaning he ain’t getting shit. After that I paid for my food and left. This has been my mantra for years. Mental...
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